Interlude

Someone asked me last night, how to tell a Husband it is over.
This morning, totally unrelated, The mayor of San Francisco and his wife announced that
they are getting a divorce.

To the person last night, I wrote this. It seems worthwhile to post. Not Longfellow, but it gets the answer right.
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Tell him the truth
Move out, be quick, be kind
Talk him thru it like a friend, and
After the initial face to face
Keep physical distance
As much as is possible

He needs to get answers,
Then he needs lots of distance.
Keep other guys out of it for a while.
You can date, fling, whatever
But keep it away from him.

If he thinks things are swell
And you are going crazy,
Then me thinks you are not very good at communication
No hate here, just facts

Reality is
For some time you have been shielding your feelings
To avoid doing the hard stuff
That is your problem

You need to cop to
Not being up front with him
You owe him that
You loved him once
You held him once

He does not know

So this will hit him
Like a ton of bricks
He may break like sticks
On an Autumn day

He may wish for danger
He may wish for death
Just to stop the feelings
Stop the hole in his chest

Warn his friends
Make sure someone is there
To catch him
When you let him fall
It cannot be you

He will be confused
He will be lonely
He will be cold
He will be fragile

This is not your fault
But both of yours
You have done this together
Now you must part

For your sake and his
I hear it in your Voice
It is over long past
You deserve better
He deserves better

Go in peace
Go in the love
That we owe all creatures
Go quickly, and heal yourself

Lest you do this again
With some other poor creature
And let him heal
Lest he do the same

Good luck